SEX MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE:

Ladies, be honest; when your sex life is not good, you are not happy! Men tend to misunderstand women’s bodies and what turns her on, making them easy targets in the blame game when sexual satisfaction starts to wane. And sure, they also make mistakes in bedroom, which we will discuss also. As it turns out , top sex and relationship experts say that women make plenty of sex mistakes of their own. Here’s what I have to say about the six most common mistakes women make in the bedroom and what you can do to get the satisfaction you so rightly deserve.

Sex mistake #1: Not initiating sex with your Partner

It’s 2009 and still, many women worry about ladylike behavior. You do not want to appear pushy or come on too strong for fear of being labeled aggressive. According to me, failure to initiate sex is one of the biggest mistakes women make.

“Most men feel like they are always the initiator and that sets up disequilibrium on the
Passion scale in the relationship”. Sexologist Dr. Ashok Rughani says, generally, men want to be pursued by their partners just as much as women do. I think women are as interested in sex as men; they just need to communicate their feelings.

Sex mistake # 2: Worrying about What You Look Like.

Thinking about how you look during sex stops you from enjoying yourself and ruins your chances of achieving orgasm.

“Don’t think about the fat on your belly or the makeup on your face,” Concentrate on the pleasure of the fact. You must give yourself permission to have an orgasm.

Men want their wives to abandon themselves in sex play, and that is not likely if she is anxious about her physical concerns. Men do not notice half the things women obsess about anyway. Men are much more attracted to women who show signs of health and youth and fertility. Rather then worry about the shape of your waist and hips, worry about your energy level and enthusiasm and interest in him.

Sex Mistake # 3: Assuming Sex is Casual for a Man

Dr. Rughani believes that women should all let go of old-fashioned notions, such as women are not sexual or that sex is just for men. “For some men, sex is very important act. Don’t minimize it.” I believes the idea that both men and women find sexual intimacy in the context of a committed relationship to be more satisfying. Numerous research studies make it very clear that the people who have best quality and most frequent sex are married couples. That says a lot about the inadequacies of casual sex.

Never assume that a man is not romantic. Two big mistakes in our culture are that women are not sexual and that men are not romantic as women.

Sex Mistakes # 4: Believing He’s always up for Sex

Sure, most teenage boys are ready and willing just about any time, but not true for men. The pressure of everyday life- family, work, bills- can zap a man’s libido. This comes as a big surprise to many women, and often his lack of interest in sex is something women take personally.  When women discover he does not want to have sex, they think, he doesn’t love me’ Not true, .he just doesn’t want to have sex.

Sex Mistake # 5: Not giving him guidance

Talking very directly about sex, what we like and don’t like can make us feel uncomfortable, even with a partner we’ve been with for a long time and otherwise feel close to. But it’s the only way to achieve a satisfying sexual relationship.

“A woman must take responsibility for her sexual encounter. No man can bring a woman to orgasm if she doesn’t take responsibility for her sexual experience. Even the best lover can’t know what she needs without her letting him know. The good news, is that men very much want to please women.

If women can tell men in a way that does not kill their ego, they will appreciate it. Men do listen, particularly if you are quite clear about it.

Sex Mistake # 6: Getting Upset When He Suggest Something new

After a couple has been together for a while, it’s natural to want to spice things up with a little variety. Just because your man wants to try something new doesn’t mean he’s unhappy with you or your sex life. In short, do not take it personally.
Nobody should ever feel obligated to do something they don’t want to do in the personal and intimate area of sexuality. “if your man asks you about trying something that’s outside of your morals, make it clear that it’s off limits for you and explain why.  Of course, do this in a loving way as best you can. If it is something that is not really a moral issue for you but still don’t want to, again explain why. If it is simply a startling request and you’re initially uneasy about it, try not to overreact. Instead, let him know you need some time to think about it.

Good luck!!!!