Sexual Foreplay: What’s in it for Men?

Sexual foreplay means more sex. And that’s something any guy can get into.

Dates that end with lovemaking often begin with dining out, so that the meal itself can be seen as a form of sexual foreplay-in more ways that one. How many times has this happened to you? You take your woman out to dinner at a nice restaurant. The waiter takes your drink orders and tells you of the specials, a boy brings you a choice of breads, and you get down to the business of perusing the menu.  Your eye is on the right side of the page- palak paneer, dhosa, or chicken- When your date announces, “I think I’ll just have a salad and a couple of appetizers”.

At this juncture you might say something like, “Are you crazy? You will be starving later”. But she insists she knows her appetite and enough of those little things make, for her, a full and satisfying meal.

So it is with sexual foreplay. A lot of men don’t think they’ve had sex unless they have had full-on sexual intercourse-the meat and potatoes of many men’s sex lives, if not the pizza and dhosa. Skeptical as they are of the nourishment value of the small plates, they tend to rush toward the entrée and insist they’ve not really dining otherwise. They do not see the value of sexual foreplay in lovemaking-the well-placed nibble and stroke, the suckle and bite-even if that is what women often want. Most women enjoy the idea of foreplay.

Why Men Have a Fear of Foreplay

I think it’s fair to say men are still afraid of women’s bodies. Most men are hung up on the fear of losing their erection. It dominates their mind during the act of sex. They are really preoccupied with themselves. If men have a worry about losing an erection, they tend to rush to insert for intercourse. They can skip over foreplay or make it extremely brief because they are just thinking about maintaining the erection above all else. It is as though the act of sex is a performance and they will be judged on the quality of their erection- while the irony is that, if you please your women in other ways, she does not care how hard you are.

How to Make Sexual Foreplay Work for you

Meaning that if you are worried about your erection to vanish, you can have your cake and give her those appetizers too. Some men have problems with rapid ejaculation, could be another reason of avoiding foreplay. It is very important for men to take enough time to prepare women, to get more lubrication and avoid painful intercourse.